3-2-1: On How to Waste Less Time, like Yourself More, and Get Unstuck
Wisdom Wednesday #17
Hey fam,
It's time for your weekly does of wisdom (now in a new, denser, 5-minutes-or-less format!)
Here's 3 ideas from me, 2 quotes from others, and 1 question for you to mull over this week.
3 Ideas From Me:
I.
The primary purpose of goals is to create motivation. Results are just a side effect.
Have you ever wanted something so bad and then felt underwhelmed (or even depressed) once you got it?
Every new achievement will become status quo once the high wears off—"I'll be happy as soon as I get..." will always let you down.
Try to form the best goals you can, but know that you'll be much happier working toward a mediocre goal than sitting around waiting for the perfect one to present itself.
II.
You will feel driven to produce as soon as you remove the option to consume.
Modern humans are addicted to stimulation—"boredom" gives us literal physical withdrawals (try a dopamine detox if you don’t believe me).
But you can use this addiction to your advantage:
Increase the friction to consumption as much as possible. Uninstall, log out, turn off, get rid off. Your stimulation addiction will drive you to choose production over boredom every time.
III.
Socializing will create opportunities. Solitude will make you competent to know which ones to take.
If you spend all your time looking internally, introspecting, and doing solo activities:
you will know what you like, value, and want, but be limited in your opportunities and vehicles to reach them.
If you spend all your time looking externally, socializing, and doing group activities:
You will be inundated with new opportunities, but your lack of clarity on values and vision will prevent all your achievement from actually improving your life satisfaction.
Tilting the scale by even 20% will massively improve your results.
2 Quotes From Others:
I.
Psychologist Nathanael Branden on what our response when meeting new people tells us about ourselves:
"When meeting a new person, the autonomous individual—an individual of self esteem, self trust, self reliance, self regulation—tends to begin with the question, 'What do I think of this person?'. The immature or dependent individual tends to begin with the question, 'What does this person think of me?'"
Source: The Psychology Of Self Esteem
II.
Entreprenuer Gary Vaynerchuck on self love and focusing on your strengths:
"You’re right I don't [judge myself]… we're beating ourselves up. And it’s like: Everybody sucks. At something. We all have shortcomings. and we all have strengths. Why don't we just audit that? Look at it like "alright, well I'm good at this, but I'm not good at that." And then I only focus what I'm good at. I don't dwell that I can't fix shit around the house. I call somebody to fix it. I also think it's awesome that I'm so emotionally stable and I'm the emotional backbone. I don't judge myself. I'm fully in love with myself. But I'm also fully in love with everyone else too."
Source: Gary Vaynerchuck’s interview on Impact Theory
1 Question For You:
And finally, here’s one question to ponder this week:
Whats the single biggest thing slowing me down right now? What actions can I take to remove, redirect, or at least mitigate its impact?
That's all for today!
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Catch you next time,
Matt