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"Trolls" and "Critics" Control You Because You Don't Understand Them
Most people are afraid of trolls and critics.
But that is only because they do not understand them.
I intimately know many trolls and insatiable critics (including my former self to some degree).
After you read this you will see them in a completely different light, making you far more capable of dealing with them.
What They Are
Trolls & critics ...
1. Are always uniquely intelligent but unbelievably self critical, to the point where every attempt to do anything is self-sabotaged and burned down.
They hate themselves for "being a waste of potential" no matter how hard they try.
All expression of this innate trait had them rejected by most people their entire lives, their intellect and often humor their only (occasional) saving grace.
Unable to maintain any kind of long term relationships, they sank further in to loneliness & suffering.
Those who became more "critics" than trolls have become so resentful at the "unfairness" — how others “are only successful due to not being subjected to the same demons" — they (unconsciously) see it as "only fair" that others get their share of soul-shattering criticism.
Those who became more "trolls" than critics are simply seeking temporary amusement at the expense of others, because they've been unable to find any pleasure or joy in the nihilistic black hole of their minds outside that which is shocking, appalling, or derisive.
All the dudes nitpicking your goals, posts, and expression, are these dudes.
They are not some leviathan capable of crushing you.
They are just broken men who have suffered endlessly under their own critic for so long that they eventually became him entirely.
How To Handle Them
When encountering a troll or critic:
Their goal is to inspire in you the same self attack they suffer.
You being subject to this pain is the closest thing they can get to connection and understanding.
If you defend yourself, they win.
Instead, you have 3 options:
Ignore them — This is the best choice. Utilize it whenever possible. Know that any desire to engage with them is evidence that they have hooked in to your own self criticism. Do not let them win.
Love them — This is much harder and requires a true compassion, detachment, and understanding. If you aren’t a trained therapist, you’re almost guaranteed to make things much worse. I’m looking at you “savior complex” people.
Retaliate — This should be used as a last resort and only temporarily. ie If you work with a troll, it may be smart to counter troll until you can get away this from person. If you are not an expert troll yourself, you will almost certainly just get dunked on.
That’s all for today.
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